How to Manage the First Few Weeks as an International Student in New Zealand?
Moving to a new country is exciting until the silence hits.
The first week of moving abroad as an international student can feel like a whirlwind. New faces, new systems, new routines. But then, suddenly, everything slows down. The adrenaline fades. You’re left with quiet moments that feel heavier than expected.
No friends yet. No family around. A completely different timezone. You’re not necessarily homesick, but something feels off.
Walks feel longer. Meals feel lonelier. Even classes, which you were once excited about, start to feel overwhelming.
If you’re in your first month in New Zealand as an international student and feeling this way you’re not alone. This phase is more common than you think, and it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.
How to Manage the Silence and Settle In?
Here’s what helped me and what might help you too:
If you’re young, parties might be your best bet: They’re a quick way to meet people and break the ice. But if that’s not your vibe, don’t worry there are plenty of other ways to connect.
Join clubs and local activities: Whether it’s a student club, a community event, or a hobby group, getting involved in your city is one of the best ways to meet people and feel part of something. I recommend signing up the city’s local newsletter. An example would be Wellington City Council’s newsletter. Opt into it to find what are the locals up to?
Join study groups and English classes: Even if your IELTS score was a solid 9, these spaces are less about language and more about connection. You’ll meet people who are also navigating this new chapter.
Try something new like Toastmasters: I joined Toastmasters and found a community of people who shared similar values. It wasn’t just about public speaking it was about belonging and connecting with people.
Talk about it: Feeling off? Say it out loud. You’ll be surprised how many others feel the same way. Talking helps you feel less alone and more understood.
Build a Routine to Stay Grounded
Studying abroad puts you in a constant state of being outside your comfort zone. At first, everything is new and exciting but that wears off, especially when you start to “live” in your new environment. Commuting, attending classes, grocery shopping it can all feel overwhelming. Some people like to call it the uphill battle.
That’s why it’s so important to keep pushing yourself to try new things and meet new people, but also to build a routine that helps you stay grounded.
Creating a routine early on helps:
Soften the impact of change by reminding of things of home
Create a sense of stability
Give you back a feeling of control
Even small habits like a morning walk, regular study hours, or a weekly call home can make a big difference.
Mental Health Matters
International student mental health is often overlooked, but it’s so important. You’re adjusting to a new country, culture, and lifestyle. That’s a lot. Give yourself grace.
If you’re feeling disconnected, try:
Creating a routine
Calling home regularly (but not too often)
Exploring your new city
Journaling your thoughts
Reaching out to student support services in New Zealand
A pro tip is to stop comparing the life that you had before. This reduces procrastination.
Let’s Talk
If you’ve been through this phase, I’d love to hear from you. How did you deal with the silence after moving abroad? What helped you feel more at home?
And if you’re in the thick of it right now hold on tight. These feelings are normal, and they will come and go. But they don’t last forever. It really does get better, slowly but surely. ❤️ Book a free chat with me.
Bonus Tips for Adjusting to Life in New Zealand
Explore your surroundings: Even a short walk around your neighborhood can help you feel more connected.
Use social platforms wisely: Follow local student groups on Instagram or Facebook to stay updated on events. New Zealand is big on Facebook.
Don’t compare your journey: Everyone adjusts at their own pace. You’re not behind.